Circle of Influence

Who you allow into your brain has a direct impact on your success or failure. I talk about the importance of a persons circle of influence and how this has a direct influence on whether or not you will be successful or not in achieving your goals for your life. 

Think about the four or five people you communicate with on a regular basis. There is research to show that you will move toward the same life trajectory as those who you are in regular contact with in your life.  Who you allow to either, move your toward, or, away from those things you want to achieve in life will determine your future.

I decided long ago to delete the naysayers from my circle of influence. I only want people in my circle of influence who are going places in their own lives.  Those who have personal goals to move up and onward in life.  Those who struggle for sure, but, with that struggle that work to overcome it and move on. I want people in my circle of influence to push me to do better. Those who help me to see the potential I have and help me to capitalize on it.  

I want relationships with people who understand it's give and take. It's not always take, and, it's not always give. Strong relationships are ones that each person understands they have something to give and they have space to received. Those are the people I want in my circle of influence.

I have lived a life where I was always a taker from people. I was living a life of desperation and because I wasn't working on my own stuff I didn't have anything to give others; thus, it was not a two-way street in the relationships I had with people. I have also been in places in my life where I felt I HAD to give and give in order to have people in my life. I learned that is also unhealthy and I had to learn to find a balance in all of my relationships.

I ask you to think about your close relationships in your life. Are they give and take relationships? Do the people in your circle of influence know you and support you in your goals in life in way that it motivates you to move toward those goals?  Do you have a naysayer in your life who is always shooting down your ideas in a way that you walk away feeling defeated?  Take a clear look at those four of five people who you talk to the most and decide if they are the ones you want influencing your life trajectory.

Ensure you are doing what you need so you can bring something to the table in the same way as you are looking at others. You can't just take and you can't just give in relationships.  There should be a balance. It's not always 50/50, but, for sure it shouldn't be predominately one or or the other the majority of the time.

Your circle of influence matters.